%PDF-1.6 %���� At the time it was pouring Pop’s drink the way he likes it. The internal self-contradiction that David (and probably all of Nic’s family) felt was the most relatable feeling expressed in the memoir. I won’t review the book because I don’t feel like I have enough experience to do that. • Birth—N/A. Nic also had a step-parent who cared for him as if he were her own, which isn’t always the circumstance in second marriages. The club consists of two for now. This book is a memoir written by writer and journalist David Sheff. Obviously at some point the story has to end in order to publish, but it definitely didn’t feel over. The following are suggestions for group discussion questions. In the introduction, Sheff writes, “I have felt and thought and done almost everything an addict’s parent can feel and think and do” (p. 13). As I said, I’ve had—still have—people in my life struggling with addiction. It instills a message of disingenuous smugness, even if only meant in a harmless way. Were there times you disagreed with David Sheff’s course of action? Cast: Steve Carell as David Sheff. “Fortunately I have a son, my beautiful boy Unfortunately he is a drug addict. If the setting had been elsewhere, I wouldn’t have been as drawn into the story. Fortunately he is in recovery. Unfortunately he relapses. The setting was key for me in relating to the story and holding my interest. What privileges did he have? “Beautiful Boy” jumps all over the place in time, needlessly cutting to flashbacks and flash-forwards in ways that are more than just confusing. People do that all the time. You have to wing it, which sounds terrifying. At a point Nic is on drugs then recovering, on drugs then recovering…and so on. As you get older situations become clear. What is your philosophy of discussing drugs with kids? 116 0 obj <> endobj We as a society need to change how we view it, respond to it, and treat it. endstream endobj startxref Next on the docket is Room by Emma Donoghue. The love there was beautiful and pure. I would like to share those questions and my answers with you. What made the setting unique or important? Inside you'll find 30 Daily Lessons, 20 Fun Activities, 180 Multiple Choice Questions, 60 Short Essay Questions, 20 Essay Questions, Quizzes/Homework Assignments, Tests, and more. One time use can cause death and chronic meth use can cause parkinson’s-like cognitive dysfunction. Getting back to the question though, I was hooked immediately. Not only is it accepted, often it is encouraged. Then in February I went overboard and read The Chronicles of Narnia: The Magician’s Nephew and The Last Battle, The Woman In the Window, and Annihilation. strange writings, reviews, podcasts, & pictures. These may or may not contain spoilers. based on the book "Tweak" by Nic Sheff. Sure, I have a puppy that I would do anything for, but I know it doesn’t truly compare to having a human child. Addiction memoirs often illustrate this same definition of insanity…Yet the genre itself remains so addictive that readers keep hoping to discover … Those are the wrenching questions that haunted every moment of David Sheff’s journey through his son Nic’s addiction to drugs and tentative steps toward recovery. Beautiful Boy is a fiercely candid memoir that brings immediacy to the emotional rollercoaster of loving a child who seems beyond help. We encourage you to always follow a pro-life movie viewing with a facilitated discussion about it. Alamo Drafthouse Navigation Film, Food, Fun. Based on the memoirs “Beautiful Boy” by our friend, David Sheff , and “Tweak” by his son, Nic Sheff , the film follows the harrowing experience of meth addiction and recovery through a father’s and family’s … I would like to share those questions and my answers with you. I didn’t love the ending. One of my closest and oldest friends has struggled with addiction for years. • Where—Scottsdale, Arizona, USA. The divorce rate is upwards of 2/3, so it isn’t uncommon. To me it’s no different than having a drink with your kid. Once in the the car, he would have me pour the beer into a thermos slowly to avoid foaming. Parenthood was the most foreign experience for me. Oakley Bull as Daisy Sheff Obviously I would warn about the dangers and about being responsible. So this year I decided to read at least 1 book a month. I saw Beautiful Boy today in the theater and would like to talk to you about it, Reddit. Which could you relate to and which were totally foreign? I hope to have a small library room one day. Look at David for example, he used drugs heavily and still came out the other side fine. What did I do wrong? Learn More. Group A: Questions regarding the content of the film: There is no telling if some other course of action would have changed the outcome for Nic. The Unofficial Discussion for Beautiful Boy (cuz no one else is doing it) Okay hi hello. These may or may not contain spoilers. I would have liked to end on Nic’s triumph. If anything, the book was more eyeopening than sad. The only criteria is that the book has to have been made into a movie since it’s publication. I was ready to get sad. Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Meth Addiction. Watch the trailer for Beautiful Boy. My view of addiction is definitely altered. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. What is the extent of David Sheff’s own drug use? Discuss Nic’s upbringing. For the month of March we decided to read Beautiful Boy by David Sheff. When you’re young like Jasper, you almost don’t realize what’s going on. The Beautiful Boy lesson plan contains a variety of teaching materials that cater to all learning styles. But the new film Beautiful Boy, based on the memoirs of journalist David Sheff and his son, Nic, follows a different path — almost a path without a path. Which of his experiences, thoughts, and actions were most affecting to you? "Beautiful Boy" is the name of the memoir journalist David Sheff wrote in 2008 about the struggles of his son Nic. based on the book "Beautiful Boy" by David Sheff. David’s drug use may have been extensive for the time period, but I’m not familiar enough with the era to know. I’ve been in similar predicaments and said to myself, “I’m not helping him. Would you be honest about your past with your own kids? In opposition to that, my parents were never open or honest with me about drugs and their experience with them, yet I still found my way to drug use. Meth is deadly and fatal. But, as an assigned reading for Drug/Health Class I am taking through PSU, it definitely opened my eyes to the constant battles faced by both parent and addict with dealing with an addiction. During the first couple months one of my friend’s and I decided to do a bookclub. About Beautiful Boy. BEAUTIFUL BOY Film: A Discussion Guide for Families. ( From the publisher .) What might you have done differently? Zachary Rifkin as 8-year-old Nic Sheff. The film Beautiful Boy is about the drug addiction of the teenager Nic Sheff, which becomes a serious challenge for his family. What did you like, what did you dislike, and what do you wish had been different? “Beautiful Boy” is a powerful, poignant and heartbreaking film, combining the memoirs of David Sheff and his son, Nic Sheff. By that I mean it showed me what real addiction is. It is impossible to know when recreation became addiction for Nic. Perhaps he knew his parents would be forgiving and understanding, so he did drugs. What disadvantages? Something else to point out: The book itself is overlong. I would tell them about drinking and smoking pot. Jack Dylan Grazer as 12-year-old Nic Sheff. Use them as a guide to help your group thoughtfully engage the material in the film and gain a deeper understanding of how to respond to the concerns & reflections of your peers. Did it hook you immediately, or take time to get into? Based on the best-selling pair of memoirs from father and son David and Nic Sheff, Beautiful Boy chronicles the heartbreaking and inspiring experience of survival, relapse and recovery in a family coping with addiction over many years. I would get a candy bar, he would get a beer. I tackled The Chronicles of Narnia: The Horse and His Boy in January. Timothée Chalamet as Nic Sheff. Unfortunately he relapses. To our family? From a parent’s perspective, it seems there is no way to tell which path will work. Archived. Join & Discussion about English movie Beautiful Boy. David’s writing was often simplistic and elegant. Did the book change your opinion or perspective about anything? I know many people who did drugs on and off as kids (some that still do as adults) and they live healthy, normal lives. Of all the characters, I connected with Jasper the most. My favorite part, and this is kind of lame, was all the facts and statistics. When you look from that perspective and see what little is being done in comparison to other diseases it is sickening. Being someone who has experimented with drugs since my teenaged years, I used to think I had a drug problem and that I was an addict. Beautiful Boy is a film based on the memoirs “Beautiful Boy” by David Sheff and “Tweak” by his son, Nic Sheff, following the harrowing experience of meth addiction and recovery through a father, son and family’s eyes through the years. Beautiful Boy is a fiercely candid memoir that brings immediacy to the emotional rollercoaster of loving a child who seems beyond help. Seeing Jasper and Daisy grow up and become aware that their brother was more than a “smokey guy” hit home for me. What did I do wrong? After seeing what real addiction looks like, I believe that I was never addicted, but was a heavy user that decided to quit. From the people I grew up with, experimenting with drugs was normal for us. Beautiful Boy is the 2018 film based off of David Sheff's book, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction. What had happened to my beautiful boy? Could the story have taken place anywhere? Beautiful Boy changed my opinion on addiction as an illness as comparable to cancer. In the New York Times Book Review, Janet Maslin wrote, “Addiction is a compulsion to do the same thing over and over, despite knowing that the outcome will almost certainly be the same.Addiction memoirs often illustrate this same definition of insanity…Yet the genre itself remains so addictive that readers keep hoping to discover something new.” The stigma around marijuana is unwarranted especially compared to how dangerous alcohol can be. Anger used to be my first emotion tied to addiction, but now it is sympathy and understanding. I am open to reading more nonfiction now as well. h�b```e``�"�M�@��(�����a�B�Ya�L�%������10K/�R@, �fd�ϸ���A*�����%�Y��e��� & Posted by 2 years ago. As much as I wanted to completely understand David’s plight, parts I did, I couldn’t fully comprehend how he felt; at least not the way a parent would. Beautiful Boy. I would be honest with my theoretical children about my drug use to an extent and at the right times. At what point do you think you would have noticed Nic had a serious problem and needed help? I love books. On and off and on and off…is how the addiction and recovery process is. They repeatedly take us out of the moment, especially as the film is building to its emotional crescendo. Discussion Questions 1. Psychology 360: Abnormal Psychology 11/4/15 Discussion Questions: David Sheff, “Beautiful Boy” & “My Addicted Son” 1. When David smoked pot with Nic, what was your reaction? Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction by David Sheff This is a memoir of a father's attempts and unfortunately his many failed attempts to help his son Nick kick the habit of his addiction to drugs. Teaching Beautiful Boy. I know plenty of parents who have smoked with their kids. Perhaps the openness and honesty drove Nic to drugs. I’ve been around it my entire life. That being said, the book does begin to feel repetitive, which may be the point. Only upon retrospection do you comprehend what you’ve gone through. What was your initial reaction to the book? But seeing the numbers and formative year developmental hindrances it helped me feel empathetic for the state he has spent so much of his life in. I related to how back-and-forth David felt toward the end when he felt anxious helping Nic and anxious not helping Nic. Do you feel different now than you did before you read it? Which character did you relate to the most, and what was it about them that you connected with? I would recommend this book for anyone who has been an addict or known an addict, or for anyone who wants a better understanding of the disease. • Education—University of California, Berkeley. Stay tuned for more bookclub discussion. Discuss Nic’s descent. Since I am from the same are in California, I was able to visualize and understand the places described. Christian Convery as Jasper Sheff. Those are the wrenching questions that haunted every moment of David Sheff’s journey through his son Nic’s addiction to drugs and tentative steps toward recovery. BEAUTIFUL BOY Film: A Discussion Guide for Families. 1. I would also want my children to talk about their use, or thoughts on drugs, with me. David did what he thought was best. Before I go further, let me provide you with a brief rundown of what this book is about. Thanks for reading. It was published by Houghton Mifflin on February 26, 2008. Not in the sense I could’t believe a parent would do that, but because I was surprised David himself would—seemed out of character for him as a parent. I wouldn’t tell my theoretical 14 year old about using cocaine or harder drugs, at least not until they were older and I felt like they could understand limits. David's son, Nic, had started using drugs at an early age and struggled many tim. We will be alternating who picks the books month to month. ;�w���Ib��� 4�����w�`���'���@���,�H3�Z ����� Nic’s upbringing sounded fantastic—outside the divorce. Until then I didn’t know how ubiquitous addiction is and I decided to expand the Times article into a book, which I called Beautiful Boy. Beautiful Boy is a fiercely candid memoir that brings immediacy to the emotional rollercoaster of loving a child who seems beyond help. Skip to main content; New House Rules Find out everything you need to know before your first visit back to Alamo Drafthouse. For the first three years, they live a happy, contented life, providing Nic with everything he needs. At the same time I understand the point to it. I mention that because I did feel a bit of a drag in the middle. Looking back some 20 years later, I realized I was assisting him drinking and driving to inhibit his alcoholism. New Discussion Guide for “Beautiful Boy” We are pleased to partner with Amazon Studios and serve as a resource for the new film, Beautiful Boy , which premieres nationwide this November. Originally published: 2008. Addiction is a disease, an illness, an ailment—whatever you want to call it. Because it is a true account, it is difficult to say what I would have done differently. Author Bio. It felt like a downer, but then there was a book tour. Beautiful Boy is a fiercely candid memoir that brings immediacy to the emotional rollercoaster of loving a child who seems beyond help. Here is an excerpt from David Sheff’s website: What had happened to my beautiful boy? The Unofficial Discussion for Beautiful Boy (cuz no one else is doing it) Close. 1. © 2018 Partnership for Drug-Free Kids | www.drugfree.org. As far as advantages go, Nic has/had a father who cared deeply for him. Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction is a memoir by David Sheff that describes how his family dealt with his son Nic's methamphetamine addiction. David Sheff writes this in Beautiful Boy, and I think it is the fundamental reality to remember. It was a privilege, an honor. I grew up around addiction—from grandparents to parents to siblings to friends. How did you feel about the ending? Before Nic Sheff became addicted to crystal meth, he was If you have questions or comments feel free to leave one below. Type here and click enter to search Shows and News. Sheff and his wife Vicki are overjoyed when they have their son, Nic. %%EOF Meet new friends online & Invite other friends to Share your comments & thoughts with about Beautiful Boy movie Here is how the rankings stood, from most to least important aspects of a penis. 24. Beautiful Boy also manages to do something that most stories about addiction, with their typical arcs of redemption and sobriety, don’t dare to do: it gets a little frustrating. I am still forming my thoughts so bear with me. Overall David seemed like a good parent by providing adequate shelter, opportunities for growth and self expression, a good education, and a loving home. Obviously that lends itself to a wide range of books. I read this with a very heavy heart as time after time Mr. Sheff's attempts to help his beloved son fails. I am not used to reading nonfiction, but parts of this felt like a novel. New York: Mariner Books, 2018. 144 0 obj <>/Filter/FlateDecode/ID[<5C0EB0FB2D2A8842ACB6A64F71627022>]/Index[116 52]/Info 115 0 R/Length 127/Prev 211030/Root 117 0 R/Size 168/Type/XRef/W[1 3 1]>>stream Beautiful Boy, A Star is Born and the newly-released Julia Roberts’ project, Ben is Back, are leading by example. ᳂h&� ���M?BՅ �]#@ • Currently—lives in Inverness, California. Featuring local experts in a post-film discussion. This movie follows one family's true story of addiction, relapse, heartache, and sobriety. To our family? Of all the questions about this book, this was the toughest. Published in 2008, David Sheff’s memoir, Beautiful Boy, explores his experiences of coming to terms with his son’s addiction to methamphetamine. He needs to hit rock bottom and know what it’s like to lose everything and suffer…” Yet, when that phone rings you’re damn sure I’m going to answer and do whatever I can to help my family. This didn’t happen. This 2018 film is unique in its perspective of not only following a young person through his journey of drug addiction, but in also following the perspective of his parents and … Fortunately he is not dead.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction What are the many ill effects and harms caused by methamphetamine use? Kue Lawrence as 4 and 6-year-old Nic Sheff. A story of addiction told through the eyes of a father, a family’s struggle driven by fear, heartache, determination, … Before going to the cinema: a) Divide your class into two groups (A and B). Our club laid out some general discussion questions and some specific questions. When David smoked pot with Nic I was slightly surprised. Split the work up and answer the following questions. The following version of this book was used to create this study guide: Sheff, David. In the New York Times Book Review, Janet Maslin wrote, “Addiction is a compulsion to do the same thing over and over, despite knowing that the outcome will almost certainly be the same. 167 0 obj <>stream Age, time, and perspective can impact everything. Discussion Questions. Fortunately he is in recovery again. Click here to toggle the navigation. Beautiful Boy, is probably a book I wouldn’t have picked up to read on my own. There were times while reading I said to myself, “let him fall," but it’s difficult to know what I would have done were it me. Their conclusion: Size doesn't really matter, as long as it's beautiful and well-groomed. The book grew out of the article "My Addicted Son" that Sheff had written for The New York Times Magazine in 2005. Beautiful Boy by David Sheff tells the story of methamphetamine addiction from the perspective of the father of an addicted son. Did Sheff seem to you a “good parent”? I don’t want to belittle Nic’s affectedness by the situation, or anyone’s (myself included) but as David said, the disease knows no bounds. Either way, I was ready to have it end. Initially I went into the book thinking it would make me sad and cry. As a kid I would go to a convenience store with my grandfather. And it began to feel repetitive to the point I stopped caring about the journey and wanted to know the conclusion. The divorce was certainly a disadvantage for Nic’s childhood. 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